I'm going to go out on a limb here, and say something that is really against current wedding, um, doctrine. So bear with me. Please don't send Martha Stewart to fire bomb my house. I mean, I love Martha Stewart's style, but she's sccccarryyy. Ok. Here goes. DEEP BREATH.Your wedding is NOT all about the details. It is NOT the details that make a wedding. I mean, I like wedding details as much as the next girl! Look at my blog! Crafty cake toppers, floral arrangements, cool invitation ideas, I like them all. But I think, together, we need to get some perspective. You know what cool details make for? An awesome wedding album. You know what makes a great wedding? Joy. And serving the food on time (have I stressed this enough? For serious. They traveled for you. Feed them on time!)
If you have the time and energy, by all means, think about the details. If you can make your wedding more of a personal reflection of you and your partner, that's awesome. But lets be honest. I have been to countless weddings, big expensive weddings, small DIY weddings, and everything in between. And I can't remember a single centerpiece. Not one.
If you want to focus on something, focus on making the day a accurate reflection of you and your partner. Do things because you want to do them, not because the wedding industry is telling you they are the done thing. Your guests do not care about the fancy calligraphy on your escort cards. And they are not going to remember your wedding because it was the third one they went to this year with parasols and pashminas for all the guests. They are going to remember the wedding that was vibrant and joyful, not the wedding that felt like a (very detailed) photoshoot.
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Thank you again for your practical advice! I was just at a wedding this weekend, and the couple had only two details that were really important to them: serve Memphis barbecue, and have a Beale Street blues band play. They didn't fuss about anything else, and it was a beautifully sweet ceremony, and a rocking good party. What more could you want?!
You have such a knack for making me smile with relief at hearing some sanity in regards to weddings, which is so novel, but also making me squirm and blush slightly because I'm a real sucker for the details and I feel a bit silly about it!
You're definitely helping me to put it into perspective though and relax a bit about the whole wedding thing.
funny you should mention centerpieces. of all the weddings i've been to, i only remember one centerpiece because i have it sitting on my desk!
A-MEN! I'm so glad there are other women out there that don't feel the need to be that bride with matchy details that no one pays attention to. You are so right - I cannot remember one single centerpiece at any of the countless weddings I've been to
thank you :)
Hear, hear!
I just realized I cannot remember a single centerpiece from any one of the dozens of weddings I have attended either. Holy cow. I need to print this out and post it near my computer to help keep me in line. . . .
amen, sister! (and a clink of the wine glass) :)
Ms. Peonies!
I love details too, don't fret! But I'm really beginning to resent being told that a great wedding is all about the details. Sigh. Here I was thinking it was all about getting married, and then having a party. But nope, it's about the font on my programs.
ARGHAHTERHAHRRR.
Thats how I feel.
:)
hooRAH! No one remembers anything about other people's weddings - only the couple do. Just let it go and don't beat yourself up if it's not all matchy matchy
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