I haven't written much about our wedding of late, so I thought you all were due for a update:We're done planning.
Orrr... that is what we are telling people when they ask (I think I've mentioned I don't talk much about the wedding in real life?) We've booked our big three: our venue, our photographer, and our caterer, wedding elves all. As for the other major details, we are well on our way - David's parents found him a suit on sale, I seem to have found a dress, we did a dry run on the flowers, our rabbi has the date on her calender, we've settled on a welcome picnic, and we designed our invitations and save the dates. Phew. That feels like a lot when I write it all out. So, we're in good shape, given that we are a whole 10 months away from the wedding.
Since my hyper efficient overdrive has given us breathing room I've made the following vow to myself: From here on out, I will not worry about things unless they are meaningful, fun, or really useful. I don't want to spend time thinking about the color of the bridesmaids dresses (not fun for me), I want to spend time writing the wedding service. I do want to think a bit about chic and easy table settings (fun!), but I want to spend far more time enjoying the process of pre-marital counseling with our rabbi.
So, that's my vow to myself. I'm sure I'll have a hard time keeping it, but I figure having made it to the internet will help keep me honest. Does anyone want to join me in making a wedding vow? What parts of the planning process feel really meaningful to you?
And PS - I'm not going to vow not to stress about money. I don't like to set myself up for failure. Sigh.
Picture by Our Labor Of Love (because wedding planning should be lots of fun, no?)
17 comments:
Congrats. the big three are an achievement ... and i think its awesome you are trying to maintain a positive perspective... its as stressful as we make it, right? lol!
I have to add that one about money to my list. I stress way too much about how much we're spending, which is in fact pretty decent. If I had to pick one thing that means the most to me, is making sure that everyone who means something to us attends (which is now a little bit worrying for me as my sister who lives in LA has yet to book her ticket back to Singapore - and the wedding is in December!) And thank you for your blog, it's always something I look forward to reading.
I don't get why people have to constantly ask if there's anything else to plan or how plans are going.
We were pretty much done in June but at the shower everyone keep asking if we've still got stuff to plan and I honestly wanted to say "Oh God I hope not"
Congrats on all the things you have accomplished, and the planning vow. I think that is a noble goal and your life should be less stressful if you come close to keeping it! That has sort of been our goal since the beginning... unfortunately my mother took it as apathy and began questioning if I really wanted to get married since I didn't seem to care etc. UGH! Sometimes, you just cant win.
Hehe! I am the opposite. We finished our ceremony just this past Saturday for the wedding this Sunday. I had too much other things to plan and do so I procrastinated. But I did not stress about things being perfect.
We are in the same boat. My over-organized planner self has booked the church, the reception venue ( a restaurant so no caterers or rental companies to worry about) and the photographer. I have my dress and the paper suite has been designed since day 1... with 9 1/2 months to go! It is a good feeling, that I know that everything else is just little details. I have a white dress, a priest to marry us, and food to serve to our guests. Done. Done. and Done. My vow... to enjoy being engaged, and to do as our priest says, 'talk about things'. Good things, bad things, long term things. Just talk :)
Oh goodness, should I be worried? I'm getting married in five months. And...we have our location booked and our save-the-dates ordered. That's about it. But it's a small wedding with only family, so everything will just fall into place, right?
I figure no matter what, it will be lovely and wonderful because our loved ones will be with us and we'll be getting married! So I try not to worry about it.
Oh goodness no, you should not be worried. You might want to mock me, but you should not worry. It's calming for me to have everything done way in advance, but I think for most, achem, more normal people, that would just cause extra stress.
I *never* try to cause you to worry with my posts, just to relax. This is just my way of doing things, not anyone elses.
I am getting married in a month and just wanted to pipe in to say that my favorite part so far has been the premarital counseling we are doing through my church. It has been so meaningful and thought provoking, and all the little details like which type of flower or whatever just fade away.
We just got married on the 20th, and although the "big stuff," i.e. the venue (we self-catered, had a talented friend photograph and another talented friend officiate), was taken care of in advance - and there was a mental picture, it all just fell into place the week/weekend of the wedding - mostly due to my amazing family & friends! It was amazing though, allowed me to really relax and just let the details happen as they may. My artistic and creative friends did an amazing job. So I guess my vow was to concentrate on my new-husband and myself, while connecting with family and friends, and letting a beautiful setting take care of the details.
I'm IMPRESSED (that is an understatement) by all you've done with 10 months to go! We've just become engaged and I can't fathom having all of those major details sorted out in the next two months.
That is so great!!! I know that I'll be the same way, once it starts happening, I can't NOT do it & get it done with! Now that you have the big three done, you can fit in the details with plenty of room to spare.
you are so far ahead of standard wedding planning timelines it's scary! all i can say is wow. if i were you, my life would be sooooooooo much less stressful. and so much more practical. :)
but alas, i have 3 weeks to go and a list of about 30 things to do. i am hopeless, but happy for you that things are totally under control!
Oh lovleymorn- my life is so stressful! It's just not wedding stress ;) And I just threw out the wedding planning timelines right away as 'not my thing.' Your wedding, though, is your thing, and is clearly going to be amazzzzziiiinnngggg.
Congrats! Its a great place to be.
We're doing pretty well being ahead of the game, but I must say I have been holding back from telling people because, frankly, after a year of engagement and 7 more months to go... I think they're sick of me :)
big congrats! and I have to say, I love that you did a test run of the flowers... very smart! and cute.
Nice one, Meg.
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