Comments on A Practical Wedding: Shower Me With Love

wow. If someone wants to throw me a shower, I'll h...

2008-12-03T09:03:53.690-08:00

wow. If someone wants to throw me a shower, I'll have to pass along this fabulous idea. As a huge booknerd, this would be perfect. And makes me much happier than the idea of getting fancy undergarments from relatives. scary.

What a wonderful theme for a shower, and your invi...

2008-11-28T12:21:13.570-08:00

What a wonderful theme for a shower, and your invites are adorable!

I loved this post, firstly because the book shower...

2008-11-24T11:40:56.543-08:00

I loved this post, firstly because the book shower thing is such a great idea and secondly because your experience was so similar to mine of my hen do. Sometimes you just have to let go and trust your friends and what they come up with will be more wonderful than you could imagine yourself.

First, I never claimed to be the anti-wedding blog...

2008-11-20T07:50:15.444-08:00

First, I never claimed to be the anti-wedding blog, I only claimed to be the find-a-way-to-do-it-that-works-for-you blog. I have not a problem in the world with letting people buy me gifts or throw me parties to help me celebrate. All within reason. Also, I never claimed not to need more books. One always needs more books. So letting ones friends by one a handful of books is perfectly reasonable, as far as I'm concerned. (and if you must know, half of the books in the picture were free as they were from my friend the editors publishing house).
Do I get paid for ads? Yes. I spend a huge number of hours a week writing this blog. It's hard work. That said, do I reject advertisers? Yes. All the time. Do I get paid very much? No, not really. Also, all of my ad's and ad posts are very clearly posted as such. I'm not pulling anything over on anyone, and my sponsor policy is very clearly posted.
That said, it sounds like you need to read a new blog. I'm not a fraud, but I'm not anti-wedding or anti-spending money. I'm pro what is practical for any given couple, and I'm anti conspicuous consumption.
Also, I'm a real person, so coming here to tell me how my bridal shower makes you think I'm a fraud because I didn't do it they way you wanted me to is both inappropriate and out of line.

I'm leaving your comment, since it's clearly an honest opinion. That said, reconsider how you speak to people publicly.

I am a bit torn on this post and actually have bee...

2008-11-20T05:46:30.731-08:00

I am a bit torn on this post and actually have been very torn on this blog since you started featuring adds (and I presume getting paid for it).

On one hand you write blogs about not buying into the the ring Olympics and you feature people who say, having monogrammed napkins really doesn't matter and you feature registries with Goats on them.

On the other hand you feature registries at all...you even said you don't need stuff...but you registered anyway-doesn't that = caving to the WIC? If you don't need stuff, why register at all?

If you aren't into the WIC then why feature vendors. You may call them Wedding Elves, but to everyone but you, they call themselves vendors. A rose by any other name....is still a rose.

On one hand it would have been rude to tell your friend, I don't want your party. On the other hand, you once again registered. If you really just wanted to celebrate the fact that you were getting married and you didn't really buy into the WIC, you would have said no gifts, or asked for friends to write out their faviourite love/friendship themed poem or thought or something.

I think what you struggle with isn't not buying into the WIC, but not wanting to spend the money that the WIC says you have to, and not being inclined to do everything yourself to make a WIC wedding without the cost.

I think you're a bit of fraud. Sorry. I suspect this comment will be removed, but it's not an attack. I just mean to have you, and your readers really start to think about their views on the WIC and how far they are willing not to buy into the WIC. I think when many women get the chance, they will really take those things that the WIC says they should have.

Oh, how lovely! I am also a fan of low-key, from-t...

2008-11-18T15:28:31.071-08:00

Oh, how lovely! I am also a fan of low-key, from-the-heart, grown-up wedding showers. Lucky gal!

And thanks for the reminder - I need supress my inner control freak and just not worry!

ok dumn question - what's a giant cheese ball????

2008-11-18T10:00:23.468-08:00

ok dumn question - what's a giant cheese ball????

what a great idea! and, total book score!

2008-11-18T09:55:05.497-08:00

what a great idea! and, total book score!

As showers go, this one tops the list for unique i...

2008-11-18T09:38:12.056-08:00

As showers go, this one tops the list for unique ideas. Plus, your advice to just let your friends love you the way they want to....priceless!

Ahh, a book shower sounds like heaven. Come to thi...

2008-11-18T09:11:02.063-08:00

Ahh, a book shower sounds like heaven. Come to think of it, any party with a book theme is a good idea....

this is such a GREAT idea. I've been to some BAD s...

2008-11-18T08:01:53.352-08:00

this is such a GREAT idea. I've been to some BAD showers, and this sounds so personal and lovely.

I think your shower was great!!! but you miss one ...

2008-11-18T07:36:06.709-08:00

I think your shower was great!!! but you miss one really important thing! the stripper!!!

This was such a lovely post with a great message, ...

2008-11-18T07:32:34.571-08:00

This was such a lovely post with a great message, it made me smile while reading it.

I love, love, love this idea! If/when I ever get ...

2008-11-18T07:31:59.945-08:00

I love, love, love this idea! If/when I ever get married, I'd love a shower like this!! Such a great idea!

That is such a cool shower idea.It's funny but the...

2008-11-18T06:49:43.555-08:00

That is such a cool shower idea.

It's funny but the first shower I ever attended I had to plan. Boy was I freaking out a bit as I had no idea what I was getting in to but I had a slight fear of old ladies beating me upside the head with their large handbags.

My second one by all typical standards failed miserably as no one showed up but the few of us who were there had a great time, got a little snickered, and laughed til it hurt.

It just seems to work out better if you come in with no expectations for something beyond your control so you are sure to enjoy it regardless of what happens.

Your shower sounds spectacular and i think the adv...

2008-11-18T04:53:57.404-08:00

Your shower sounds spectacular and i think the advice you give is great. Sit back and Relax! Love it

Two things:1. I LOVE that Miss Manner's book - tha...

2008-11-17T23:36:08.966-08:00

Two things:
1. I LOVE that Miss Manner's book - thanks to you :)

2. What a fun idea, and so uniquely you! I love how girly and retro the party food sounded.

this is a fabulous idea! have fun reading all of y...

2008-11-17T21:33:33.090-08:00

this is a fabulous idea! have fun reading all of your new books!

This is one of the best shower ideas ever!

2008-11-17T21:23:39.767-08:00

This is one of the best shower ideas ever!

I love it, and am going to steal/borrow the idea.

2008-11-17T20:22:13.372-08:00

I love it, and am going to steal/borrow the idea.

This is THE BEST shower idea I've ever heard!!! Lo...

2008-11-17T19:58:36.941-08:00

This is THE BEST shower idea I've ever heard!!! Lovelovelove... and jealous of your new stash of books. Also... hmmm... how fitting to receive loads of wonderful new books to take to a beach honeymoon (I will selfishly ask)?!

ps: Junot Diaz will rock your world.

Oh, I am so jealous! My shower is on Saturday, and...

2008-11-17T19:52:03.452-08:00

Oh, I am so jealous! My shower is on Saturday, and I wish I had asked for a book shower...what a wonderful idea.